5 Reasons You Can’t Miss the Curvy Lingerie Shopping Soiree!

Well, after months of hard work and planning, the Curvy Lingerie Shopping Soiree is finally here!!! I couldn't be more excited! After years of hosting intimate (i.e., small) events featuring a single retailer - my girl, Precious Williams of Curvy Girlz Lingerie - I've taken the plunge to expand to a larger event featuring multiple plus-size retailers as well as a relationship panel to help you take your sexy to the next level!

Still not sure if you want to come out for all the fun? Well, here are FIVE reasons why you can't miss this year's Curvy Lingerie Shopping Soiree!

buy lingerie online copy1. You get to touch, feel, and hold the product before you decide to buy! One of the major complaints for most plus-size shoppers is the inability to shop in person at major retailers. Unlike our slimmer sisters who have the opportunity to try on clothes and get a sense of fit, texture, color, etc., very often we are relegated to online offerings only. This is especially true for intimate apparel. However, with retailers like HipsandCurves.com and Le Bustiere Boutique on hand, you will have the chance to touch, feel, and see products before plunking down your hard-earned money. (Oh and did I mention that Hips and Curves will be offering a special discount exclusively at the event?)

2. Get your girls right. Bra fit and celebrity stylist Karima Renee will offer a full-length presentation about how to achieve your best look through the proper foundation garments. You can book an appointment with her right at the event! I don't know about you, but if she's good enough to work with Jazmine Sullivan, Chrisette Michele, Lane Bryant, and Vh1, she's good enough for me!

3. Real talk about relationships. I don't know about you, but one thing I cannot stand is one-sided relationship advice. Every time I go to a panel or forum on dating and relating, it's either a group of women spouting off what they think men want or a group of men berating the ladies for what they're not doing. Oh and let's not forget the folks who have been married for forever and a day who have NO idea what it's like here out in these streets today. Nope. Can't do it. And I won't do it. That's why my Curvy Relationship Panel is featuring a cross-section of experts - singles, married, men, and women - to give a diverse perspective on real issues when it comes to dating, mating, and relating for plus-size ladies. Oh, and did I mention that each of the panelists is offering a special gift for all attendees?
3. Gift bags, door prizes, and dessert! Everybody loves gifts, right? All guests will receive a gift bag featuring loads of goodies, including coupons from a few retailers who weren't able to participate in the event in person. Also, every guest will have the opportunity to win door prizes like some Curvy Girlz Lingerie, a bridal gift bag from Pretty Pear Bride magazine or Secret VII - a sexy board game for you and your boo! There will also be a complimentary dessert bar with lots of yummy sweets!

Who doesn't love lingerie? I don't know about you, but there's nothing like slipping into a silky nightgown at the end of a stressful day. And no, I don't have a significant other at the moment. But it's nice to just wrap myself up in that little piece of luxury. And, I cannot tell you how much wearing the *right* bra has enhanced my entire wardrobe. (Seriously, I look like I've lost 10 pounds due to the lift my bras gives me.) My clothes fit better and I feel more confident because I know that I've got the right garments on underneath. These are just a few of the reasons I love lingerie. Come share the love by coming out to the shopping soiree this Saturday!!!

Tickets are available at the door for $20; however, why don't you save $5 by purchasing your tickets in advance at http://bit.ly/CurvyLingerie2016. See you there!

Monday Morning Memo – The Other Part of Success

"Failure is not the opposite of success, it's part of success." - Arianna Huffington


Do you ever find yourself struggling, feeling like you will never achieve your goals? Even though it is very difficult - and even annoying at times - I try to use these opportunities as fuel to my fire. To remind myself that this is what I'll talk about someday when I'm being interviewed about my "overnight success." Heh.

So, if you're having a hard time right now, remind yourself that this is just part of the journey.

Curvy CEO Asks…What Are YOUR Weight Goals?

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plus size fashion model target skinny ban

What are your weight goals?

Are you actively attempting to lose weight?

Are you working just to maintain your current weight?

Are you just living your life and not thinking about weight at all?

Right now, I would fall into the second category, with a bit of leaning towards the first. Although I would love to say I'm trying to lose a bunch of weight, right now my head is just not in the game. And that is the result of a sense that long-term, massive weight loss is not really realistic for me. I hate to think of torturing myself to lose weight only to gain it all back - and then some - shortly thereafter. So, for now, I'm focusing on maintaining (i.e., not gaining) weight. As I slowly add more activity and healthier (not healthy, per se, but healthier) eating into my life, I focus moreso on longevity and maintaining a decent quality of life. (In recent months, I've seen friends and loved ones struggle with the debilitating impacts of no physical activity and poor eating. That, if nothing else, is a good motivator for adding in some health and wellness activities into my own life.)

That got me to wondering - what are your weight goals? And why?

#WorkwearWednesday – Cold-Weather Outfit Ideas for Work

BRRR! Because it's #WorkwearWednesday and still freezing outside, here are a few cold-weather outfit ideas for work....


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Want more tips and outfit ideas about cold-weather office looks? Check out my must-have cold weather corporate items as well as this set of outfit ideas!

What are YOU wearing to work on these bitterly cold days? Share in the comments section, Facebook, or Twitter!

Lose Weight to Find Love? A Relationship Expert Weighs In

At the end of last year, I read the book Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do by Dr. Duana Welch.

I cannot tell you how much I love this book . . . mostly because it provides a bit of hope for women like me. You know, the ones who have spent years with their nose in a book, then suddenly looked around and started to wonder if they’ve let the opportunity for love pass them by. In Dr. Welch’s case, she found herself a divorced single mom with a freshly-minted Ph.D. in Psychology living in Texas. Not content to rely on popular wisdom, which would tell her that her chances of finding love were slim, she began to research the question herself. After applying the same research skills she used to get her doctoral degree, she uncovered the scientifically proven methods for finding and maintaining love. The result was not only her happy marriage to her husband, Vic, but also her book and her blog, LoveScienceMedia.com.

Recently, I reached out to Dr. Welch to ask her thoughts on whether plus-size women (and men, for that matter) should lose weight in order to improve their chances of finding love. After all, that’s the first piece of advice you get from every magazine, talk show, and concerned friend or parent. Here is what she had to say:

"You're right that many experts might counsel plus-sized folks to shed pounds. Will losing weight help? Yes, you'll likely get more attention from more people, at first. But really, I rarely advocate losing weight, and here's why.

"First off, set-point research and weight-loss science both indicate that almost all of us will eventually return to our pre-loss weight; even most people who have liposuction or lap-band surgery eventually regain every pound, and then some. We can very gradually live our healthiest lives--eating sensibly, exercising daily--and this will bring us to our best selves. But our best selves, for many, are still plus-sized. There's no point in attracting someone who will perpetually badger us to get down to the weight we were when we met them, or privately wish we were thinner. Live reasonably, and love who you are.

[caption id="attachment_10433" align="alignleft" width="200"]Dr. Duana Welch of LoveScienceMedia.com Dr. Duana Welch of LoveScienceMedia.com[/caption]"Second, women tend to be far less "fatt-ist" than men--so guys, just be yourselves. And men tend to be more forgiving of extra pounds than women think they are. In studies, when men are asked to circle the silhouette they find most appealing, they don't choose the waif-thin, but instead, most prefer an average-weight woman. Women are working hard to lose pounds they (a) won't keep off and (b) often didn't need to lose to be optimally appealing anyhow.

"So here are my tips. First, go with that attitude you already expressed: Not everyone will want your curvy figure, and that's okay. Some will--it's those men you want. There is no point in trying to appeal to people who want someone skinny. Next!

"Second, be healthy--so you will feel good, and so your waist will look good. This means that you need to exercise half an hour a day, sleep 7 to 8 hours a night, drink about 64 oz. or more of fluids including water daily, and eat reasonable portions of healthy food (eating until you feel about 80% full is a good guideline). Men vary quite a bit in the weight they prefer, but men's preference for a waist that is smaller than the hips? Is a human universal. Even blind men can feel out the same shape that sighted men prefer! Turns out, although this (like all other human mating psychology) is non-conscious, men are tuning into and turned on by the shape that denotes optimum fertility and health: a waist that is 30% smaller than the hips. But that's their ideal; men go for any waist, effectively, that is discernible. When you are healthy, your curves will reveal your waist. Allow your clothing, likewise, to accentuate it!

[pullquote]Want to hear even more on plus-size dating from relationship experts? Don't miss out on the Curvy Lingerie Shopping Soiree & Curvy Love Relationship Panel on Saturday, February 6 in Washington, DC! Panelists include a matchmaker, dating coach, and married podcasting couple. Plus sips, sweets, and shopping! Tickets are $15 in advance, $20 at the door. Get yours today at http://bit.ly/CurvyLingerie2016![/pullquote]"Third, emphasize your face. Recent research shows that men who want a quick lay focus more on the figure than the face. But the Mr. Commitments of the world--the ones who want you in your totality, and not just your sexuality--are much more prone to be focused on your face.

"So that's it. If you are living healthfully, accept and love who you are rather than fighting an endless battle to be someone you're not. Emphasize your waist and your face. And then, await He Who Loves It All."

I love this advice...especially since it confirms a conclusion I reached a while back. Always nice to have an expert opinion to back you up *lol*

What are your thoughts on this? What has been your experience - dating with and then possibly without excess weight? Feel free to share in the comments section! Also, if you have other questions for Dr. Welch, feel free to contact her directly. She is super-friendly and also responds very quickly (and thoroughly, I might add).