"You are the designer of your destiny. You are the author of your story." - Lisa Nichols On this last day of 2012, as many of us are assessing the year that has just passed and preparing for the year to come, let us remember that we are in charge of our futures. Have a safe, wonderful New Year's Eve, everyone!
Well, it's that time of year. The bloat from months of holiday partying is beginning to weigh folks down. With one last celebration to go before the year ends, folks start to analyze and assess the year that has passed and project towards the year that is to come. As I've mentioned before, I abandoned making resolutions a few years back. Instead, I choose themes. This past year, it was "Health and Wealth," which saw me pursuing healthy curves and restructuring my financial priorities. This year, my theme is "Practicing Equilibrium" - that is, habitually acting in a manner to achieve a state of balance between the opposing powers, influences, and forces in my life. To me, this theme recognizes the fact that you have to work continuously to manage the constant pressures that pull you in different directions (e.g., work, family, health, etc.). This theme was largely inspired by my recent discovery of the book Self-Compassion: Stop Beating Yourself Up and Leave Insecurity Behind. In this book, psychologist Kristin Neff explores the notion of self-compassion, which she defines as "acting the same way towards yourself [as you would toward someone else] when you are having a difficult time, fail, or notice something you don’t like about yourself." So, yeah, that's me - practicing equilibrium in 2013. Here are some great resources to help you in establishing your goals or themes for the year to come:
Black Girl's Guide to Weight Loss: 5 Tips to Help You Create Smart and Successful Resolutions
The Grindstone: A Foolproof Method for Sticking with Your New Year's Goal
Happy Black Woman: Preview 2013 - Ten Journaling Questions to Help You Envision Your Ideal Life Next Year
Lifehack: How to Reflect on 2012 and Set Yourself Up for Success in 2013
Happy New Year, everyone!
Here are some great
I know that many of you are still probably rounding up last minute Christmas gifts. In all the hustle and bustle to be generous to others, don't forget to pick up a lil' something for yourself! In particular, you might want to try any of these pieces to ensure a *sparkling* New Year's Eve!
reeks of Sally Hemings and Thomas Jefferson. (Yep. I'm one of those. I'm sorry, but am I supposed to be hyped that this black woman, whose job is to "fix" everyone else's problems, can't do any better for herself than be the President's side piece? Thank goodness they threw Senator Davis into the mix.) Although I take issue with some of the storyline, overall the plot twists make this show absolutely addictive! In watching the show, you also can't help but recognize the absolute flyness of the leading lady's wardrobe! Draped in soft hues of beige, blush, and gray, Olivia Pope zips across the nation's capital in some of the fiercest coats and pant suits you could ever wear! Then there are the subtle accents - the delicate necklaces, the simple yet sleek heels, and, of course, a fabulous handbag. Recently, I took a stab at coming up with a few items that a plus-size diva might rock to show her own Olivia Pope style!
Details about featured items are available here.Still hungry for more Olivia Pope style? Check out this article - Style Suite: Channeling Scandal's Olivia Pope - as well as this video where Kerry Washington gives viewers a sneak peek into Olivia's closet: [youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u8vbYzLq5Vc?rel=0] Enjoy!
I absolutely LOVE handbags. I really do. Perhaps it's because I have a tendency to carry absolutely everything I could possibly need whenever I walk out of my front door. Even as a little kid, I delighted in getting a new purse and exploring all of the different compartments to hold my little "lipsticks" and lotions. These days, I carry more than ever, so it's important to me to have a bag that can not only accommodate all of my essentials (toiletries, keys, cellphone, wallet, iPad, etc.) but also any work materials (report, handouts, notepad, etc.) that I may need. That's why it's so crucial to have a great work bag - one that can hold all of my "stuff" but can also transition effortlessly into a meeting or other work event without causing a distraction. Generally, I find that a structured tote best meets these needs. For a long time, I stuck to basic black (as most of my wardrobe is based in black) but lately I've started to delve into other neutrals like gray and tan. For the most part, these can blend quite well with whatever outfit you are wearing. From time to time, I will rock a bag in a bold color - royal purple or oxblood red - but even in doing so, I don't want to make it so bold that it distracts away from my otherwise professional appearance. Here are a few handbags that you might want to rock with your corporate look . . . . Bags That Flatter Your Figure. Also, although I don't believe in spending money just because something is "name brand" this is another instance when I think it's important to spend a little more to make sure you have a quality item that will not only hold up, but will also communicate that you are someone to be taken seriously. After all, we all know the perils of being caught wearing plastic accessories. What is your favorite type of handbag? Is there one in particular that you've had your eye on? Personally, I am drooling over the entire Michael Kors collection. Perhaps I will pick one up during the after-Christmas sales....
Finally! The fashion gods have spoken! Color authority Pantone has declared EMERALD as the Color of 2013!
"Lively. Radiant. Lush . . . A color of elegance and beauty that enhances our sense of well-being, balance and harmony."Unlike tangerine, I am absolutely thrilled about emerald green. It is a wonderful shade - I often use it as an accent color for an otherwise routine business look. Here are a few items in the 2013 Color of the Year that might catch your eye:
"Can all your worries add a single moment to your life?" - Matthew 6:27 (NLT) For the past several weeks, I have been struggling with anxiety - about my work, my weight, my family, and just about anything else you can imagine. The state of world events didn't help thing much - what with school shootings, nuclear missile testing, and so on. Everything just seemed like it was out of control. Yet, all of my worrying resulted in nothing more than migraines, poor eating, lack of sleep, and a general bad attitude on my part. That's why I was so relieved this weekend when I stumbled across one of my favorite Bible verses that reminded me of the futility of anxiety and worry. Whether you are Christian or not, you can't deny the truth of the statement above. So, here's to a week of being worry-free . . . or at least trying to be. Make it a great week ladies!
Details on pictured earrings available here.I don't have pierced ears. This comes as an absolute shock to most people. But I don't. Neither does my mom. Neither does her mom. The reasoning behind this? I think it's some combination of medical concerns about scarring as well as some biblical influence. (You know old school church folk don't believe in piercing, tattoos, etc.). So, yeah. It's only clip earrings for me. And if you've ever taken a look at the clip earring offerings at most stores, it's usually some clunky, chunky earrings that would be perfect if I were auditioning for an all-black version of The Golden Girls. But, outside of the new holiday trend for cluster earrings, most available options leave non-pierced ladies like myself wanting for more. Thankfully, I've identified a handful of retailers that always have amazing clip earring offerings beyond the typical button- or cluster-style. My favorites are Emitations.com, which specializes in cubic zirconia pieces often modeled after celebrity gems; HSN, most notably the offerings of the uber-fab Joan Boyce, who almost exclusively makes all of her earrings clip-on; Curvy CEO affiliate QVC.com, which features killer designs by Rachel Zoe; and Cliptomania.com - one of the best kept secrets on the web! Cliptomania features nothing but clip earrings and has special offerings of bead and chandelier as well as "big & bold" earrings. Honorable mentions go to Dillards.com, Macys.com, and NeimanMarcus.com, which have much broader offerings online than they do in-store when it comes to clip earrings. If you or someone you know does not have pierced ears, check out these sites - I guarantee you will find something you love!!!