Month: January 2016

Curvy CEO Asks…What Are YOUR Weight Goals?

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What are your weight goals?

Are you actively attempting to lose weight?

Are you working just to maintain your current weight?

Are you just living your life and not thinking about weight at all?

Right now, I would fall into the second category, with a bit of leaning towards the first. Although I would love to say I'm trying to lose a bunch of weight, right now my head is just not in the game. And that is the result of a sense that long-term, massive weight loss is not really realistic for me. I hate to think of torturing myself to lose weight only to gain it all back - and then some - shortly thereafter. So, for now, I'm focusing on maintaining (i.e., not gaining) weight. As I slowly add more activity and healthier (not healthy, per se, but healthier) eating into my life, I focus moreso on longevity and maintaining a decent quality of life. (In recent months, I've seen friends and loved ones struggle with the debilitating impacts of no physical activity and poor eating. That, if nothing else, is a good motivator for adding in some health and wellness activities into my own life.)

That got me to wondering - what are your weight goals? And why?

#WorkwearWednesday – Cold-Weather Outfit Ideas for Work

cold-weather-outfit-ideas-for-workBRRR! Because it's #WorkwearWednesday and still freezing outside, here are a few cold-weather outfit ideas for work....

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Want more tips and outfit ideas about cold-weather office looks? Check out my must-have cold weather corporate items as well as this set of outfit ideas!

What are YOU wearing to work on these bitterly cold days? Share in the comments section, Facebook, or Twitter!

Lose Weight to Find Love? A Relationship Expert Weighs In

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At the end of last year, I read the book Love Factually: 10 Proven Steps from I Wish to I Do by Dr. Duana Welch.

I cannot tell you how much I love this book . . . mostly because it provides a bit of hope for women like me. You know, the ones who have spent years with their nose in a book, then suddenly looked around and started to wonder if they’ve let the opportunity for love pass them by. In Dr. Welch’s case, she found herself a divorced single mom with a freshly-minted Ph.D. in Psychology living in Texas. Not content to rely on popular wisdom, which would tell her that her chances of finding love were slim, she began to research the question herself. After applying the same research skills she used to get her doctoral degree, she uncovered the scientifically proven methods for finding and maintaining love. The result was not only her happy marriage to her husband, Vic, but also her book and her blog, LoveScienceMedia.com.

Recently, I reached out to Dr. Welch to ask her thoughts on whether plus-size women (and men, for that matter) should lose weight in order to improve their chances of finding love. After all, that’s the first piece of advice you get from every magazine, talk show, and concerned friend or parent. Here is what she had to say:

"You're right that many experts might counsel plus-sized folks to shed pounds. Will losing weight help? Yes, you'll likely get more attention from more people, at first. But really, I rarely advocate losing weight, and here's why.

"First off, set-point research and weight-loss science both indicate that almost all of us will eventually return to our pre-loss weight; even most people who have liposuction or lap-band surgery eventually regain every pound, and then some. We can very gradually live our healthiest lives--eating sensibly, exercising daily--and this will bring us to our best selves. But our best selves, for many, are still plus-sized. There's no point in attracting someone who will perpetually badger us to get down to the weight we were when we met them, or privately wish we were thinner. Live reasonably, and love who you are.

[caption id="attachment_10433" align="alignleft" width="200"]Dr. Duana Welch of LoveScienceMedia.com Dr. Duana Welch of LoveScienceMedia.com[/caption]"Second, women tend to be far less "fatt-ist" than men--so guys, just be yourselves. And men tend to be more forgiving of extra pounds than women think they are. In studies, when men are asked to circle the silhouette they find most appealing, they don't choose the waif-thin, but instead, most prefer an average-weight woman. Women are working hard to lose pounds they (a) won't keep off and (b) often didn't need to lose to be optimally appealing anyhow.

"So here are my tips. First, go with that attitude you already expressed: Not everyone will want your curvy figure, and that's okay. Some will--it's those men you want. There is no point in trying to appeal to people who want someone skinny. Next!

"Second, be healthy--so you will feel good, and so your waist will look good. This means that you need to exercise half an hour a day, sleep 7 to 8 hours a night, drink about 64 oz. or more of fluids including water daily, and eat reasonable portions of healthy food (eating until you feel about 80% full is a good guideline). Men vary quite a bit in the weight they prefer, but men's preference for a waist that is smaller than the hips? Is a human universal. Even blind men can feel out the same shape that sighted men prefer! Turns out, although this (like all other human mating psychology) is non-conscious, men are tuning into and turned on by the shape that denotes optimum fertility and health: a waist that is 30% smaller than the hips. But that's their ideal; men go for any waist, effectively, that is discernible. When you are healthy, your curves will reveal your waist. Allow your clothing, likewise, to accentuate it!

[pullquote]Want to hear even more on plus-size dating from relationship experts? Don't miss out on the Curvy Lingerie Shopping Soiree & Curvy Love Relationship Panel on Saturday, February 6 in Washington, DC! Panelists include a matchmaker, dating coach, and married podcasting couple. Plus sips, sweets, and shopping! Tickets are $15 in advance, $20 at the door. Get yours today at http://bit.ly/CurvyLingerie2016![/pullquote]"Third, emphasize your face. Recent research shows that men who want a quick lay focus more on the figure than the face. But the Mr. Commitments of the world--the ones who want you in your totality, and not just your sexuality--are much more prone to be focused on your face.

"So that's it. If you are living healthfully, accept and love who you are rather than fighting an endless battle to be someone you're not. Emphasize your waist and your face. And then, await He Who Loves It All."


I love this advice...especially since it confirms a conclusion I reached a while back. Always nice to have an expert opinion to back you up *lol*

What are your thoughts on this? What has been your experience - dating with and then possibly without excess weight? Feel free to share in the comments section! Also, if you have other questions for Dr. Welch, feel free to contact her directly. She is super-friendly and also responds very quickly (and thoroughly, I might add).

#WorkwearWednesday – What to Wear When It’s COLD Outside!

what-to-wear-when-its-cold-outsideIt's January. You're freezing. And, as much as you'd like to stay inside, bundled under the covers, sipping hot tea, you still have to go to work. Thankfully, there are several style items that lend themselves to keeping you warm and professionally polished during the winter months. So, for today's edition of #WorkwearWednesday, I list some of my favorite cold weather picks!
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  • The sweaterdress. The sweaterdress is a style staple here at Curvy CEO. First of all, it's easy - you just toss it over your head and you're dressed. Given the wide variety in fabrics and designs, you can wear several different sweaterdresses and still stay stylish all winter long. And, you know what I absolutely love to pair with a sweaterdress....?
  • Knee-length boots. Look cute while keeping my legs warm? Yes, please!! It took me a few years, but I finally managed to find some boots wide enough to fit my calves at WideWidths.com. Other great options for finding boots to fit wide width calves (i.e., calves 18" or larger) are Zappos.com, Torrid, and even Lane Bryant. Just be sure to measure your calves before you purchase anything online! Oh, and when selecting knee-length boots, be sure to veer away from anything that has too many buckles. You don't want to look like you're re-enacting Michael Jackson's "Bad" video.
  • Trousers. Even though I hate pants, they are a necessary evil during the winter months. But the good news is that you [pullquote]Want to see some of my favorite cold-weather outfit ideas? CLICK HERE![/pullquote]can couple a nice pair of trousers with some fabulous ankle boots and also have fun with different tops, including....
  • A fabulous sweater. Whether it's a basic pullover, a blazer-like cardigan, or a cozy wrap, you absolutely cannot go wrong with a fabulous sweater during the wintertime. Just be sure that the neckline is appropriate. (Remember the rule - a shadow is ok, a line is too much.) And, speaking of necklines....
  • Turtleneck anything. This is the one time of year when I don't feel like a dork wearing a turtleneck. For obvious reasons, the turtleneck is very popular during the winter - often seen on sweaterdresses, tops, etc. Polish your business look by swapping out your standard camisole for a turtleneck sweater underneath that blazer. Add a nice piece of statement jewelry and voila!
  • Scarves. If high necklines just aren't your thing, why not add a nice scarf to your ensemble? Infinity sweaters can really top off your look on a casual Friday.
  • Tights/Leggings Finally, no matter what you wear, you will likely want to skip the socks and go straight for the "big guns" - tights and leggings. The latter is especially critical if you are, in fact, wearing a sweater dress. Got to keep those legs warm!

  • These are just a few of my cold weather fashion essentials. What are some of your favorite things to rock in the wintertime?

    From Pain to Purpose: Karima Renee – The Philliy Bra Lady

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    One of the cool things about blogging and planning events is that I get to meet a host of extremely cool people...folks who have taken their pain and transformed it into a platform for helping others.

    One such person is Karima Renee aka "The Philly Bra Lady". On the surface it may appear that she is just another bra fit stylist. Well, not just any bra fit stylist. After all, how many stylists have had the opportunity to intern with the iconic June Ambrose and work with brands like Macy's, H&M, and Lane Bryant as well as celebrities like Jazmine Sullivan and Chrisette Michelle? But it's not these accolades that make me admire Karima Renee. It's the fact that she took the pain and shame she felt from having a large chest and transformed it into a business model that allows her to help other women.
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    As she shares in her bra story, Karima developed at an extremely large chest at early age. By the time she reached college, she had resigned herself to the chafing, bruising and pain that accompanied wearing multiple bras at the same time - all of which were the wrong size and fit! It was only after a proper fitting that she not only learned her true size, but found her career calling. Now Karima helps women to look and feel their best by identifying the proper bra size, style, and fit!

    Lucky for us, Karima will be bringing her Philadelphia-based business to DC for the 2016 Curvy Lingerie Shopping Soiree & Relationship Panel on Saturday, February 6 from 5:30 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. at the Renaissance Washington DC Hotel (999 9th Street NW, Washington, DC 20001). Not only will she share her top tips and tricks for finding just the right undergarments, she will have apparel from her own intimate collection on sale! Be sure to stop by the event website and snag your tickets today!

    Monday Morning Memo – We Who Believe in Freedom Cannot Rest

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    "Until the killing of black men, black mothers' sons becomes as important to the rest of the country as the killing of white mothers' sons, we who believe in freedom cannot rest until this happens." - Ella Baker

    Even though this statement was first uttered in 1964, in this era of police brutality and the need to explain why "Black Lives Matter" it seems just as relevant today...52 years later.

    Happy Birthday, First Lady Michelle Obama!

    Source: Getty Images[caption id="attachment_10356" align="aligncenter" width="560"]Source: Getty Images Source: Getty Images[/caption]To celebrate Michelle Obama's birthday today (*sniffle* her last birthday as our First Lady), here is a round up of some of my FAVORITE First Lady inspired posts!

    FIRST LADY FASHION
  • First Lady SOTU Style (2015)
  • Celebrate Spring in First Lady Style!
  • First Lady SOTU Style (2016)

  • FIRST LADY QUOTES
  • Wear What You Love, Wear What Is Practical
  • It's a Lifestyle!
  • Stay True to Yourself
  • Michelle Obama on "Physical Success"

  • FIRST LADY FABULOUSNESS IN GENERAL
  • Too Much Fabulousness: Mikki Taylor on Michelle Obama

  • Introducing Hips & Curves!

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    So, I've been talking up the Curvy Lingerie Shopping Soiree for a few weeks now. I'm sooooo excited to announce that plus-size lingerie retailer Hips and Curves will be on-site with goodies available for you to see, feel, touch, and take home!!!

    Not familiar with Hips and Curves? Launched in 2000, this online retailer offers an amazing array of intimate apparel for the plus-size woman. Whether you're looking for sexy lingerie to spice up your night, cozy nightgowns for a quiet evening at home, or even costumes to help liven up your life, you are sure to find it at HipsandCurves.com! We are so lucky to have company reps on site the day of the Curvy Lingerie Shopping Soiree to give you a close-up look at their products and help you select just the right item for the Valentine's Day holiday!

    It's all going down from 5:30 - 7:30 p.m. on Saturday, February 6, 2016 at the Renaissance Washington DC Hotel (999 9th Street NW, Washington, DC). Be sure to grab your tickets before they sell out at http://bit.ly/CurvyLingerie2016.

    In the meantime, here's a great infographic from Hips and Curves to figure out what undergarments you need to look your absolute best!
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    New Year, New View on Love

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    Today's post is a guest column by relationship blogger Dena Reid of Code Red Flag. As Dena will be serving as a panelist at the upcoming Curvy Lingerie Shopping Soiree and Curvy Love Relationship Panel, I asked if she would be willing to offer a little advice to help my readers kick off the new year with a new attitude towards dating and relationships. Check out her advice below!

    Are you ready to accept love into your life? I mean are you truly ready? Or are you allowing your views on love, relationships, and men to manifest red flags and toxic relationships into your life?

    In 2015, and the years before the rhetoric towards finding love was pretty much the same: all men cheat, men ain’t #$%&, love is dead, etc., etc. If you hold any of these beliefs then don’t be surprised that you’ve entered 2016 single and lonely. Notice that I did not say happily single. Happily single women don’t hold these beliefs about men. They aren’t single because all men want are flings. They are single because they choose to be single because they have other priorities at the time and being in a relationship needs to take the back seat.

    [caption id="attachment_10345" align="alignleft" width="300"]Looking for love? Keep reading these tips! Looking for love? Keep reading these tips![/caption]The women who hold these beliefs are bitter, often for good reason. But that bitterness, no matter how righteous it may seem, will not attract love, a good relationship, or a good man to you. In fact, that bitterness does the opposite; it repels love, relationships and men. So, for the new year I challenge women who hold these beliefs to change their view on love, relationships, and men. Here are some suggestions to get you started.

    1. Limit your time with bitter women. As the saying goes, "Birds of a feather flock together." You must be mindful of the energy you are inviting into your space. If your closest girlfriends are all bitter and lonely, then maybe it’s time for you to become close to some happy women. As you shift your circle from bitter to happy, you will see how your own energy changes and how what you attract and manifest becomes what your heart really desires.

    Beautiful plus size woman bites red heart isolated2. Get some good guy friends Every woman needs some good guy friends if for nothing more than to be a reminder that good guys do exist. You will appreciate how these men treat their girlfriends and wives and will be reminded of what you deserve. Most of all, their example will demonstrate to you that what you desire is out there. Good men aren’t some unicorn in a fairytale land, they are everywhere. Many times women overlook them as non-romantic interests and that is ok. Not every good man is going to be your man, but he can be a good friend.

    3. Be a good woman. I’m sure you think you are a good woman, most of us do. But good to who? Are you only good to yourself, the people you care about, and the people who can do something for you? If so, you may not be as good of a women as you think you are. While you should know your worth, understand that your value will be determined by those who interact with you on every level. If most of your interactions with others only adds value to your own life, then how good are you to others? Make 2016 the year that you do good for no other reason than being good. Life will return the favor. Remember, you can’t reap good if you don’t sow good.

    These three suggestions will get you started on the journey to manifest love, a good relationship, and a good man. Be intentional about changing your view on love and watch as your intentions manifest in this new year!

    Dena Reid is the dynamic force behind the popular relationship blog Code Red Flag. She is also the author of the Amazon.com best-seller Flag On the Play: A Woman's Guide to Finding Mr. Right in a World Full of Mr. Right Nows. A legally-trained Conflict Mediator/Coach who specializes in family and domestic disputes, Dena writes an advice column, hosts events, facilitates workshops, and speaks nationwide on a variety of topics. I am super-excited that she will be serving as a panelist for the upcoming Curvy Lingerie Shopping Soiree and Curvy Love Relationship Panel on Saturday, February 6 in Washington, DC. For tickets AND a chance to win a free copy of her book, click here!